Communication - Although all of us have been communicating with others since our infancy, the process of transmitting information from an individual (or group) to another is a very complex process. So here is a blog for everyone...just ramble on!

Monday, December 12, 2005

Another lesson of love...from the deepest closet.

Life and it's experiences cant turn you into a philosopher.



Quote Claude Wooldridge in Louis Buss's Luxury of Exile:



The end of a relationship is the negative copy of its beginning. there is the same feeling of unreality as when you have just fallen in love, the same loss of appetite and sleep. The strange numbness, like the shock after an accident, is exactly the same. A relationship is a holiday from loneliness, beginning and ending in the same airport. The most awful thing about the end is that it clearly reminds you of the beginning, of the joy with which you set off, everything is the same, yet everything has been inverted by grief.




I wonder what makes people what they are. Is it fruitless to expect change in them? Are we destined to be born as an exception, amongst the general fraternity of people who are unemotional, cold, unfeeling and uncaring? I don't believe that. I am sure there are people in this world who think like the way we do. To whom sensitivity, kindness, care, concern, compassion and understanding mean just as much as they do to you. Then why is it that we neva come across people like ourselves?



I know of people who are in love and cannot, for some or the other reason, cannot declare it. It's sucha lousy situation to be in. My heart sure does go out to them. But there are a certain set of people I pity a lot. The ones who are loved, those who are thought of and are cared for. Those whose smallest gestures make for a smile in someone's life, those whose mere presence is sheer joy and whose voice is like music. They are the ones who have a place in someone's heart, but don't know what they have. Those who break the same very hearts that ache for them. Those who do not feel the hurt and see the tears that follow their unkind words. Those who are offered comfort and reassurances, but don't care at all. Those who are consoled when needed to lift their spirits, but who spurn them in an act of pride. Those who ask/demand tokens of love and the need to be made to feel special, but have a problem in accepting it.



These are the most unfortunate people. They are given a chance to be loved, but who will not and cannot.



People like flowers do come, the lucky one gets to be with you always, the others just wilt away. Outside of obsession, the real world is a very happy world. Because people change, time passes, the heart grows wider, and room is made for something, someone new. We value a person only after we have lost them. Nuthing lasts foreva. But till the time it is..lets make it beautiful and worthwhile. Lets give and make the most of the hearts that care for us.

13 comments :

  1. I know of people who are in love and cannot, for some or the other reason, cannot declare it. It's sucha lousy situation to be in.

    TRUE!!!

    ReplyDelete
  2. >Life and it's experiences cant turn you into a philosopher.

    Main shayar to nahi,
    Main shayar to nahi,
    Magar a haseen,
    maine dekha,
    tujhko Mujhko,
    shayari aa gayi :-)

    How abt that?


    >Quote Claude Wooldridge in Louis Buss's Luxury of Exile:

    The End of one thing is Beginning of Another thing. It's the way you see the glass of water. Half empty or Half Full :-)


    >I wonder what makes people what they are.
    >their surrounding..culture..family. friends..all above makes impact on their upbringing...it just that amount of impacts varies from one to another..


    >Is it fruitless to expect change in them?

    Change is always very reluctant. But for some of those Change is constant.

    >Are we destined to be born as an exception, amongst the general fraternity of people who are unemotional, cold, unfeeling and uncaring? I don't believe that.

    Everyone is exception in their own way.

    >I am sure there are people in this world who think like the way we do. To whom sensitivity, kindness, care, concern, compassion and understanding mean just as much as they do to you. Then why is it that we neva come across people like ourselves?

    Becoz they don't display their affection in public...it's like if their left hand would give some donation the right hand would never be known about it... I hope you understood what I meant..



    >But there are a certain set of people I pity a lot.

    Never pity on anyone...It's all for the Best...You never know..Now you feel it's not good but may be later in time ..you may feel it was right thing done..It's mother nature...What comes around goes around.



    > Nuthing lasts foreva.

    I agree!!!

    >But till the time it is..lets make it beautiful and worthwhile. Lets give and make the most of the hearts that care for us.

    Way to Go!! I never look back and strongly dislike whining about it .. not that I don't learn from my past mistakes..But I would try to make the most out of my future who is there in front of me :-)

    don't forget to check your past blogs...all the way till blog-o-mine ...

    -AJ

    ReplyDelete
  3. Nothing lasts foreva…
    U urself said it all in just one small sentence.Now dear start living with this biiter truth…..nothing really does lasts forever the way u want it to …okkk….u u don’t stop living,or u shouldn’t be spending so much of ur time,emotions,and thoughts for someone who didn’t care much for u ….life has to go on,and we have to live it….look ahead niki

    ReplyDelete
  4. agree with AF....nothing really lasts forever, the way u want it...
    (hope something good that happened to me last year does last).

    ReplyDelete
  5. AJ

    The End of one thing is Beginning of Another thing. It's the way you see the glass of water. Half empty or Half Full :-)


    Being optimistic is a good thing. But the feeling doesn't last!!

    it just that amount of impacts varies from one to another..


    Yea, mebbe.

    Change is always very reluctant. But for some of those Change is constant.

    I think changing for the better shud not bring reluctance.

    Everyone is exception in their own way.

    Everyone is unique. With their own set of flaws, faults and good points.

    Becoz they don't display their affection in public...

    It's not only abt showing affection in public. It's abt being affectionate, caring, loving and understanding to the people who love and care for you.

    Never pity on anyone...It's all for the Best...

    I pity them 'cause they dn't differentiate between the good and the bad. They dn't care, respect and appreciate the people who ove and care for them. They just can't see the difference. Is this for the best??

    I never look back and strongly dislike whining about it ..

    Yup. There is no point in lamenting over the damages done. t's gng to do no good.

    ReplyDelete
  6. AF

    Yes, my frnd. I have nothing against anyone or anything, but mostly I don't quite like too much about anyone or anything. Every journey eventually ends in a homecoming of sorts when the old foes return to roost.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Abhishek

    hope something good that happened to me last year does last).

    *Amen*

    ReplyDelete
  8. >I think changing for the better shud not bring reluctance.

    I agree but when there is change you never know if its for good or bad...Unless someone experiences it...There are few ppl who adapt the change in early stage and not afraid of experiencing new stuff and those who follow back...others who are forced to make change....

    >I pity them 'cause they dn't differentiate between the good and the bad. They dn't care, respect and appreciate the people who ove and care for them. They just can't see the difference. Is this for the best??
    I guess they do differentiate b/w good and bad but they only come to know about this difference when something bad happens and it has hurt them otherwise they never feel anything about it...It's just how one's heart talks with their brains..
    If everyone was gonna have same feature you or me wouldn't know the difference b/w one person and another :-)
    how u doing?
    -AJ

    ReplyDelete
  9. Nik, replied to all your replies on earlier ones :-)

    G'nite,
    -AJ

    ReplyDelete
  10. yeah, very true, how Naive we get sometimes n take people who love us for granted n repent when they change..

    something surely to think about..

    ReplyDelete
  11. AJ

    How have u been, buddy? Hope all's well with you.

    I agree that you have to feel the change to analyse for urself whether it's for the good or the bad.

    when something bad happens and it has hurt them otherwise they never feel anything about it...

    Is it really that way? Do we understand only the hard way?

    If everyone was gonna have same feature you or me wouldn't know the difference b/w one person and another :-)

    Aren't everyone supposed to be different? aren't we supposed to love/like them for what they are? And doesn't each person's quality make them different from another?

    ReplyDelete
  12. Sonu

    Let’s get back the ability to seek out the good and too pluck out the hidden pearls of joy sprinkled down the road of our life in this crazy world. Let us once more learn to delight in these simple pleasures and so make ourselves a lovely day each day of our lives from now on.

    ReplyDelete
  13. > Hope all's well with you.
    In your Majesty Madame, everything is just fine :-) How about usrself?

    >Is it really that way? Do we understand only the hard way?
    I guess most of us understand the hard way...Becoz very few people think by putting themselves in other persons shoe :-)

    >Aren't everyone supposed to be different?
    Absolutely..it's really good that there is difference...

    >aren't we supposed to love/like them for what they are?
    Yup..you like the person for whatever he or she is, if that person is your friend forever :-)

    >And doesn't each person's quality make them different from another?
    Yeah, thats the reason we like someone and dislike another one. It all depends on quality of that person...


    -AJ

    ReplyDelete

Popular Posts

Time is passing you by