Absence doesn't always make the heart grow fonder.
Love is hard to predict. A lot of us have experienced the unexpected, when it comes to romance. In the age of social media, it's easier than before to feel like we are close to someone, despite how physically far away we are. However, physical proximity is extremely important in love to achieve real intimacy. Distance means not having to see, touch, smell and feel your partner in person. There would be times when you can't help but wonder if your bond is strong enough to withstand the distance.
The thought of being miles away from your significant other, sitting by the window, and longing for their embrace seems very romantic, but not very realistic. There's a plethora of reasons why a couple might be in a long distance relationship, but sometimes the distance can actually be a deal breaker. In the beginning, the rush of running into each other's arms after a few days, weeks or months of being apart is exhilarating and thrilling, but over time, distance can win. Not due to lack of love, but due to lack of contact. At first, it's excruciating to live without your partner. Days will seem forever and nights endless. But after a few weeks/months, one finds ways to fill up their lives with other things that your partner's absence doesn't feel as palpable. Lack of physical intimacy can be stressful, too. Physical closeness bonds you to your partner in deep and meaningful ways. You can have some great conversations and write the best poetry when you'll are living apart, but nothing compares the feeling of curling up in someone's arms and the sense of security that comes with it. More often than not, truth becomes optional in long distance relationships. When there is absolutely no chance of meeting your partner for extended periods in time, with significant enough time-zone difference, streamlining conversations is evident. Since fact check doesn't take place, we make details of our daily lives of how we want them to be.
The worst of all this is that you are oblivious of what the other person feels. Is he/she spending time yearning for you? Is he/she pinning for you in the same way? You'll not only get anxious of your feelings, but theirs, too. It's tempting to believe that distance is not an obstacle, but a beauiful reminder of how strong true love can be. It's tempting to hope that a person who loves you truly will never let you go whatever the situation is. We want to know we'll sail through.
So, if you are in a long distance relationship, focus on the details of the situation. With all it's colors and shades. Respect, support and communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest and true to each other. Love each other with all your heart. It's okay if it gets messy. Love doesn't have to be perfect. Just worth it!
The thought of being miles away from your significant other, sitting by the window, and longing for their embrace seems very romantic, but not very realistic. There's a plethora of reasons why a couple might be in a long distance relationship, but sometimes the distance can actually be a deal breaker. In the beginning, the rush of running into each other's arms after a few days, weeks or months of being apart is exhilarating and thrilling, but over time, distance can win. Not due to lack of love, but due to lack of contact. At first, it's excruciating to live without your partner. Days will seem forever and nights endless. But after a few weeks/months, one finds ways to fill up their lives with other things that your partner's absence doesn't feel as palpable. Lack of physical intimacy can be stressful, too. Physical closeness bonds you to your partner in deep and meaningful ways. You can have some great conversations and write the best poetry when you'll are living apart, but nothing compares the feeling of curling up in someone's arms and the sense of security that comes with it. More often than not, truth becomes optional in long distance relationships. When there is absolutely no chance of meeting your partner for extended periods in time, with significant enough time-zone difference, streamlining conversations is evident. Since fact check doesn't take place, we make details of our daily lives of how we want them to be.
The worst of all this is that you are oblivious of what the other person feels. Is he/she spending time yearning for you? Is he/she pinning for you in the same way? You'll not only get anxious of your feelings, but theirs, too. It's tempting to believe that distance is not an obstacle, but a beauiful reminder of how strong true love can be. It's tempting to hope that a person who loves you truly will never let you go whatever the situation is. We want to know we'll sail through.
So, if you are in a long distance relationship, focus on the details of the situation. With all it's colors and shades. Respect, support and communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest and true to each other. Love each other with all your heart. It's okay if it gets messy. Love doesn't have to be perfect. Just worth it!
