How often do we say this to someone, "I really am happy to be your friend. But, how I wish you were a little more understanding."
Yeah, right! Replace the word 'understanding' with friendly, sensitive, tolerant, wise, or whatever word you may choose. We do this so often.!! We like a person (or people) for who they are, and also wish that we could change some facets of their personality. It's not about changing them, 'cause if that was the case, we would never have liked them in the 1st place. We try to look at them for what they shold be rather than what they are! It's just an upgradation - to suit our needs and requirements! The way WE want them to be. It's ok, isn't it.
Nopes! It's NOT
You cannot like a person if you cannot accept him or her "whole heartedly".
Let's not expect too much.
Let's not take them for granted.
Let's thank them for the difference, however minute, they make in our lives.
Yeah, right! Replace the word 'understanding' with friendly, sensitive, tolerant, wise, or whatever word you may choose. We do this so often.!! We like a person (or people) for who they are, and also wish that we could change some facets of their personality. It's not about changing them, 'cause if that was the case, we would never have liked them in the 1st place. We try to look at them for what they shold be rather than what they are! It's just an upgradation - to suit our needs and requirements! The way WE want them to be. It's ok, isn't it.
Nopes! It's NOT
You cannot like a person if you cannot accept him or her "whole heartedly".
Let's not expect too much.
Let's not take them for granted.
Let's thank them for the difference, however minute, they make in our lives.
Hey J...
ReplyDelete> "I really am happy to be your friend. But, how I wish you were a little more understanding."
You don't need to tell your friend how happy you are that the friend is part of your life. Your friend knows about your feeling. Friend is a friend, won't feel bad if you tell him your needs. He will always try his best to make you happy. Becoz your friends happiness lies in your happiness.
When the world is against you this friend will always be with you.
>Yeah, right! Replace the word 'understanding' with friendly, sensitive, tolerant, wise, or whatever word you may choose.
Understanding is made up with words you mentioned, being sensitive to someone's feeling, tolerant about their action and wise decision that would be in interest of both of you instead of one. If you expect something from your friend your friend also expect same thing from you. If you think something is wrong then you and your friend should sit down and resolve the differences.
>We like a person (or people) for who they are, and also wish that we could change some facets of their personality.
I like the person how they are. I wouldn't want my friend to change. But it's true I would have few differences here and there and we both have to sit down and resolve it before it spoils the friendship. Any relationship is based on compromises, be it Father-Daughter, Mother-Son, BoyFriend-GirlFriend, Husband-Wife, there all are friend since friend is just another name for "Care".
Don't you think we compromises in every relationship. It's just in some we compromise to bigger extent and in others to lesser one.
>The way WE want them to be. It's ok, isn't it.
>Nopes! It's NOT
I agree with you.I don't want my friend to change.
>You cannot like a person if you cannot accept him or her "whole heartedly".
That's so true.
>Let's not expect too much.
J... You gotta expect more. It's your friend and if you don't expect from your friend from whom would one expect. There is different level of friendship. Someone is more then friend. I won't say its wrong expecting. May be that person will understand but don't give up on that person. Don't give up.
>Let's not take them for granted.
I agree with it.
>Let's thank them for the difference, however minute, they make in our lives.
I sincerely appreciate you and all your thoughts. Thank You!
Vita Marie,
-AJ
Hey Niks,
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. We DO need to accept people as they are and not as we want them to be. Even if they do change it is going to be only "temporary" and the person is going to come back to his/her own self again.
--Sheetal
The way WE want them to be. It's ok, isn't it.
ReplyDeleteYou got a point there lady...this is wht I do at times...trynna change ma friends to the way I want them to be..
not good...definitely not good :(