As I walk through this journey of life I have..
*learnt to stop judging and pointing fingers and have begun to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties.
*learnt the difference between wanting and needing and have begun to discard the doctrines and values I've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with and have learnt to go with my instincts.
*learnt that that it is truly in giving that we receive. There is power and glory in creating and contributing.
*learnt that I don't know everything, it's not my job to save the world and that I can't teach a pig to sing.
*learnt to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
*learnt about love. How much to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. I must not project my needs or my feelings onto a relationship, look at relationships as they really are and not as I would have them to be.
*learnt to stop controlling people, situations and outcomes. People grow and change and the same stands true for love as well. I can't and neither do I have the right to demand love on my terms..just to make me happy.
*learnt that alone does not mean being lonely.
*stopped working hard at putting my feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring my needs. I have a right to ask for the things I want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.
*learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen. Life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
*learnt that life isn't always fair, we don't always get what we think we deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.
*learnt to deal with evil in its most primal state - the ego. Learnt to admit when I am wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
Finally, with courage in my heart and with God by my side I take a stand, take a deep breath and begin to design the life I want to live as best as I can.
*learnt the difference between wanting and needing and have begun to discard the doctrines and values I've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with and have learnt to go with my instincts.
*learnt that that it is truly in giving that we receive. There is power and glory in creating and contributing.
*learnt that I don't know everything, it's not my job to save the world and that I can't teach a pig to sing.
*learnt to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
*learnt about love. How much to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. I must not project my needs or my feelings onto a relationship, look at relationships as they really are and not as I would have them to be.
*learnt to stop controlling people, situations and outcomes. People grow and change and the same stands true for love as well. I can't and neither do I have the right to demand love on my terms..just to make me happy.
*learnt that alone does not mean being lonely.
*stopped working hard at putting my feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring my needs. I have a right to ask for the things I want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.
*learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen. Life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
*learnt that life isn't always fair, we don't always get what we think we deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.
*learnt to deal with evil in its most primal state - the ego. Learnt to admit when I am wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
Finally, with courage in my heart and with God by my side I take a stand, take a deep breath and begin to design the life I want to live as best as I can.
Cant believe what i am seeing on this blog!
ReplyDeleteI am suffering from the same syndrome that you are suffering..lolz
~Vijay.
Hi! Nikita, My first time here n i loved ur blog...so wud be back here to read more of ur deep thoughts. Take care.
ReplyDeleteAnjali.
eh...............first time visitor me,u got an interesting blog here :)
ReplyDeletekeep the good work going lady.
I dont need to tell you, but you write very well !
ReplyDeleteDeepa.
Some More Learnings
ReplyDeleteI've learned- that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned- that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learned- that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I've learned- that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned- that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned- that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned- that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned- that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I've learned- that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learned- that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned- that some members of your family may not always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
I've learned- that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned- that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned- that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned- that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learned- that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned- that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learned- that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I've learned- that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned- that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
I've learned- that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I've learned- that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learned- that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I've learned- that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.