Love in the new era.
"You really can't prove that you love me more than I do!". But that was a nice try, tho'!, she said.
"What would you gimme if I do prove it?", asked he.
"Depends on how successful you are at proving it." came a reply.
"Nopes!You can't expect me investing my time in something that does not give me results on the outset. It isn't fair!", he shot back.
This is one of the several mundane conversations that Saurabh and Shurti had subjected themselves to. Today if they were made to hear these same conversations, they would swear that it wasn't them. Their denial, apart from all other reasons, would be mainly due to the fact that it made them remind of the bottom line - 'Once upon a time' they were madly in love with each other (or they thought so that way!).
Love to Shruti was the celestial blissful state that made everything in her world wonderful. To Saurabh it was that wonderful feeling he felt below his stomach. To Saurabh, making Shruti happy was an easy route to making it in bed, which was the only reason he left no stone unturned to keep her happy. For Shruti, seeing Saurabh happy was like living in heaven on earth. Saurabh, cried for every moment he wasn't with her. Shruti, cried for every second she spent away from him.
This way, however pretentious or selfish, you can see that they were completing each other. These beautiful feelings kept them aimless in the tumultuous relationship they were in.
It was that one afternoon that changed it all. That one afternoon Shruti would neva forget, even if she wants to. It is this afternoon that Saurabh would neva want to remember. Unlike in the movies, there was no swirling storm that was about to creat havoc nor were there gusty winds blowing their heads off. It was a silent Sunday afternoon.
Shruti looked stern. Her face was rigid. She looked as if she had come prepared for a court room trail of Saddam Hussain.
"Who was that woman with you in the cafeteria last evening?", she asked.
"She was soooooo HOT. Wasn't she?. Well, no one dahling, a new copy-writer. She's currently freelancing. If they like her work, she'll be hired for a permanent position. There is no reason for fear. You start worrying once she's hired.", said Saurabh.
"I can't live in this constant fear of loosing you. You say you love me, which should not make you oogle out to any other female that your eyes catch?. Every moment, I have this fear, 'What if he likes his colleague Preeti more than me'? 'Does he find Shruti more admirable than me'? I just cant take this anymore, I have to know for sure that you love me more than anything else in this world!”. Shruti could not control the mountain of emotions that were flooding her heart.
"Oh! C'mon my sweetie-pie. You know I love you more than a date with Bipasha Basu, which means I really love you a lot!!. Trust me Shruti. If I am oogling out at other woman, is it not because I want them more than I want you. It is not because I am not satisfied with you. You can tear my heart apart and see, how much I love you!", said Saurabh trying to convince her as much as he can.
"Bull Shit! I know that it is not true. I know you are saying this 'cause there is an excitement inside you and you want to do what you normally do to see the excitement sink in", quipped Shruti.
"Ok! Ms. James Bond, if you've kinda figured it out, can we get started?", quizzed Saurabh with a mischevious smile.
"This is the damn problem with you. All you ever think of is this. You neva think of marriage, committment, children and a life together", replied Shruti.
"Cool it. Mother India. Wait, you said marriage. Wht's my age? No one gets married at my age for Chrissake!!", said Saurabh.
"My father was married when he was two years younger to your present age", said Shruti.
"That was the 60's!! Grow up, Shruti. That was a time having a Cricket team in your house was a matter of pride. It was a time when we had no I-pods, no computers and no television. You are speaking of primordial times!! What is the harm if two adults want to spend time with each other when they love one and another minus the chains of matrimony?", reasoned Saurabh.
Like all say, reason is a thing unknown to a female mind, and Shruti was no different. She chose to not see the subtle hint in the crystal clear thought(s) of Saurabh, and decided to stick to her indirect proposition.
She proposed him. For marriage. She didn't do it in the most romantic of ways, not to mention the absence of the word "sweet" in her sentence. But she did what only a few wimmen dare to do.
Saurabh: "Well, if it's marriage what you want, then we both want different things from each other. I am sorry I cannot continue the r'ship further."
Shruti was taken aback. The sound of her world that always made her feel real was getting on her nerves. She wanted to be alone. She just couldn't stand this any longer.
She was hating him. She couldn't stand the sight of him any longer. She coudn't believe that Saurabh thought most about what was the last thing on her mind. She coudn't stand the sight of the man who was giving up the life long partnership for purely phyiscal bliss.
She understood that Saurabh was not a man to mend a car that wud not run. All he ever wanted was to drive the car, without having to take care of it.
In seperation, their feelings were complementary.
---------The End---------
My note:
It's so difficult to say who was wrong. Although on first reading you mite think that it is the MAN who is to be blamed. If you were to release urself from all socio norms and religious grip, would you take the man's side?
"What would you gimme if I do prove it?", asked he.
"Depends on how successful you are at proving it." came a reply.
"Nopes!You can't expect me investing my time in something that does not give me results on the outset. It isn't fair!", he shot back.
This is one of the several mundane conversations that Saurabh and Shurti had subjected themselves to. Today if they were made to hear these same conversations, they would swear that it wasn't them. Their denial, apart from all other reasons, would be mainly due to the fact that it made them remind of the bottom line - 'Once upon a time' they were madly in love with each other (or they thought so that way!).
Love to Shruti was the celestial blissful state that made everything in her world wonderful. To Saurabh it was that wonderful feeling he felt below his stomach. To Saurabh, making Shruti happy was an easy route to making it in bed, which was the only reason he left no stone unturned to keep her happy. For Shruti, seeing Saurabh happy was like living in heaven on earth. Saurabh, cried for every moment he wasn't with her. Shruti, cried for every second she spent away from him.
This way, however pretentious or selfish, you can see that they were completing each other. These beautiful feelings kept them aimless in the tumultuous relationship they were in.
It was that one afternoon that changed it all. That one afternoon Shruti would neva forget, even if she wants to. It is this afternoon that Saurabh would neva want to remember. Unlike in the movies, there was no swirling storm that was about to creat havoc nor were there gusty winds blowing their heads off. It was a silent Sunday afternoon.
Shruti looked stern. Her face was rigid. She looked as if she had come prepared for a court room trail of Saddam Hussain.
"Who was that woman with you in the cafeteria last evening?", she asked.
"She was soooooo HOT. Wasn't she?. Well, no one dahling, a new copy-writer. She's currently freelancing. If they like her work, she'll be hired for a permanent position. There is no reason for fear. You start worrying once she's hired.", said Saurabh.
"I can't live in this constant fear of loosing you. You say you love me, which should not make you oogle out to any other female that your eyes catch?. Every moment, I have this fear, 'What if he likes his colleague Preeti more than me'? 'Does he find Shruti more admirable than me'? I just cant take this anymore, I have to know for sure that you love me more than anything else in this world!”. Shruti could not control the mountain of emotions that were flooding her heart.
"Oh! C'mon my sweetie-pie. You know I love you more than a date with Bipasha Basu, which means I really love you a lot!!. Trust me Shruti. If I am oogling out at other woman, is it not because I want them more than I want you. It is not because I am not satisfied with you. You can tear my heart apart and see, how much I love you!", said Saurabh trying to convince her as much as he can.
"Bull Shit! I know that it is not true. I know you are saying this 'cause there is an excitement inside you and you want to do what you normally do to see the excitement sink in", quipped Shruti.
"Ok! Ms. James Bond, if you've kinda figured it out, can we get started?", quizzed Saurabh with a mischevious smile.
"This is the damn problem with you. All you ever think of is this. You neva think of marriage, committment, children and a life together", replied Shruti.
"Cool it. Mother India. Wait, you said marriage. Wht's my age? No one gets married at my age for Chrissake!!", said Saurabh.
"My father was married when he was two years younger to your present age", said Shruti.
"That was the 60's!! Grow up, Shruti. That was a time having a Cricket team in your house was a matter of pride. It was a time when we had no I-pods, no computers and no television. You are speaking of primordial times!! What is the harm if two adults want to spend time with each other when they love one and another minus the chains of matrimony?", reasoned Saurabh.
Like all say, reason is a thing unknown to a female mind, and Shruti was no different. She chose to not see the subtle hint in the crystal clear thought(s) of Saurabh, and decided to stick to her indirect proposition.
She proposed him. For marriage. She didn't do it in the most romantic of ways, not to mention the absence of the word "sweet" in her sentence. But she did what only a few wimmen dare to do.
Saurabh: "Well, if it's marriage what you want, then we both want different things from each other. I am sorry I cannot continue the r'ship further."
Shruti was taken aback. The sound of her world that always made her feel real was getting on her nerves. She wanted to be alone. She just couldn't stand this any longer.
She was hating him. She couldn't stand the sight of him any longer. She coudn't believe that Saurabh thought most about what was the last thing on her mind. She coudn't stand the sight of the man who was giving up the life long partnership for purely phyiscal bliss.
She understood that Saurabh was not a man to mend a car that wud not run. All he ever wanted was to drive the car, without having to take care of it.
In seperation, their feelings were complementary.
---------The End---------
My note:
It's so difficult to say who was wrong. Although on first reading you mite think that it is the MAN who is to be blamed. If you were to release urself from all socio norms and religious grip, would you take the man's side?
Even if I release myself from all socio norms and religious grip, I wouldn't take any one's side.
ReplyDeleteThe female Shruti is no less. If she had her priorities straight in life, I don't think she would have had physical relationship. If marriage was what she wanted she could have waited till marriage to have Physical relationship.
The modern concept is "Sex is part of Love". I am an old School type "SEX is NOT part of LOVE".
Tell me which MALE is not going to have physical relationship if offered from FEMALE without any strings attached ?????
The Guy will FAKE out bigtime that he Loves the gal if he is getting ANY KIND OF SEX from that Female.
The Guy who is ready to wait till marriage for physical relationship will stand by the Female he loves forever. Becoz He loves the gal and will do anything for Her even wait and get married when he is stable in life.
The female Shruti doesn't need to give any excuse saying she was in Love and all that. She was mature enough and she knew that guys before marriage are not committed and guys wouldn't mind having physical relationship if the gal was open to it and giving it. It's not something new she is knowing. Its pretty old thing and each and every gal knows about it.
It doesn't mean if you are in relationship you need to have physical relationship to keep your relationship fun.
Becoz when you don't have any strings attached you don't have any responsibilites in life and everything looks green and great. That is what most of Guys want and always wanted, you can call it Love in New Era and most interesting part is that Gals also give that kinda Love and also like that Love of new era!!!!!
Don't they ?
New Era has brought down the importance of MARRIAGE. There was a time when people use to wait for the right person, no matter how long it took.
From my personal knowledge many of my friends waited even 11years in their relationship to get married and thereafter started their physical relationship after marriage.
These days people just move in with the him/her and start living together and/or have physical relationship even before tying the knot and someday they end up in the story narrated by you. I have heard this story more then million times by now. Everyone must have heard it at some point through friends or family but still we don't learn from it.
This is a male figure writing the reply I know what is there on Guys mind.
-AJ
so they split all cos of doubt? That's not love anyways.
ReplyDeleteKeshi.
people have been raping eack other for centuries in the name of love.... nothing new....
ReplyDeletethere is no love in the whole thing... it was convenience... no relationship
ReplyDeleteNiks,
ReplyDeleteThat's a nice post! I do not agree on whteva AJ had to say! A typical streotype male thinking. Wud comment more on it later.
Amit.H
Hey Nikita,
ReplyDeleteThe issue of who is right and who is wrong in a breakup has been raging for
years and even if we debate on it for the next decade, we'll still have a
stalemate.
And after going through your well written article, at no point did I feel it
was the guy's mistake. He was pretty clear on what he wanted and the girl
obliged. Maybe because of the insecurity of losing him to someone else. At no
point of time did he commit marriage, and at no point during the inital stages
did she voice her intent. Communication at the apt moment is very important to
get the most out of a relationship. She should have done so before she gave in
to him. Always better to look before you leap (into bed). And for a practical
person "blind love" relates to "dim wit".
You make a mistake and you pay the price. This is the law of the land.
@AJ
ReplyDeleteI am sorry, dude! I really did not mean to offend you for your views.
-Amit H.