(Ex) files re-opened.
Things were going all well for P. She had made a comendable comeback after the series of events that happened with her in the past year.
He was the love of her life. They held hands under the moonlight, stole kisses in public and when it ended, her heart broke. Literally. He had destroyed the innocence she loved so much about herself. She buried herself under a mountain of tissues and eventually shook off the grief and self-pity. She grew stronger with time...so strong that although she realised her own shortcomings she started to love herself all the more and become supremely confident around those she don't care two hoots about. Fast forward to now. One day he calls her and everything comes rushing back. Ironically, he was in the same state that she was in (that's what he claims!), and now he wants to get back with her....for good (as he says)!
Now when he wants to come back into her life, she's all set to welcome him in! All that the he did has been forgotten in an instant. All the pain inflicted is forgiven. And she's almost ready to begin a new start. Doesn't that mean she is giving him another chance to hurt her...YET AGAIN?
I am worried for her. It sounds so great on the surface, but I find something fishy. I don't want to discourage her, but I am cynical about encouraging her too. I want to xplain to her that things would never be the same again. There's always going to be a feeling of insecurity lurking around. Want to tell her that even if she does get back with him, the adjustments would still be the same. It's Act 2, Scene 1.
Chances are that both might realize they are better with each other than being alone, despite the problems. There might be more warmth; more efforts, deeper bonds and an extra dose of gentleness, until a new equation is arrived at. "MIGHT"............Too many "if's", "but's" and "mights".
So, should she or shouldn't she? Is a known devil better than an unkown one? Are there any positive sides to a second chance?
He was the love of her life. They held hands under the moonlight, stole kisses in public and when it ended, her heart broke. Literally. He had destroyed the innocence she loved so much about herself. She buried herself under a mountain of tissues and eventually shook off the grief and self-pity. She grew stronger with time...so strong that although she realised her own shortcomings she started to love herself all the more and become supremely confident around those she don't care two hoots about. Fast forward to now. One day he calls her and everything comes rushing back. Ironically, he was in the same state that she was in (that's what he claims!), and now he wants to get back with her....for good (as he says)!
Now when he wants to come back into her life, she's all set to welcome him in! All that the he did has been forgotten in an instant. All the pain inflicted is forgiven. And she's almost ready to begin a new start. Doesn't that mean she is giving him another chance to hurt her...YET AGAIN?
I am worried for her. It sounds so great on the surface, but I find something fishy. I don't want to discourage her, but I am cynical about encouraging her too. I want to xplain to her that things would never be the same again. There's always going to be a feeling of insecurity lurking around. Want to tell her that even if she does get back with him, the adjustments would still be the same. It's Act 2, Scene 1.
Chances are that both might realize they are better with each other than being alone, despite the problems. There might be more warmth; more efforts, deeper bonds and an extra dose of gentleness, until a new equation is arrived at. "MIGHT"............Too many "if's", "but's" and "mights".
So, should she or shouldn't she? Is a known devil better than an unkown one? Are there any positive sides to a second chance?
If her heart yearns to go back to him without the slightest doubt...then yes she shld allow him back..but mind u it shldnt be coz there was nobody else in her life.It shld b coz he is the right one...and risk toh har cheez main hoti hai...so there's no point thkin bout risks...its better to be loved and lost than not to be loved at all.
ReplyDeleteGops:I know she wants to go back to him but the most important ingredient, "TRUST" is lacking. She is not being able to trust him completely.
ReplyDeleteIt is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all.
J.I: right-o! your-two-cents-worth-a-mil-quid, as usual.. :)
ReplyDeleteDunno but the ever-optimistic soul in me STILL wants to believe that theres 'love for love' somewhere in this world.. amen!
Hi Niki,
ReplyDeleteWhat would you do if you were in da kinda situation?
Suraj.
a million :) I don't think so...
ReplyDeleteyes.. I wud love to hope so too... but having seen how love blossoms n withers away in today's times, I can't bring myself to believe...
but of course... optimism is d best medicine when there is no cure...
One thing tht I realised from wht happened in past b/w me n my ex..things dont get back to normal no matter how hard we wish for it...it happens only in Bollywood..
ReplyDeleteBut still, one cant stop hoping for good times to come ahead...
Arz000n:
ReplyDeleteEventually, we learn that love is as seasonal as potatoes.
Long days of sunshine are followed by short, lusty nights.
Long nights of easeful meditation are followed by doleful, inconsequential days.
Even sex is squeezed by moon, sun, and stars into potato pancakes and candy canes.
Nor do we know what tides pull on our kisses.
Way down deep below the senses is another sort of love,
As equable as the bottom of the sea.
Yet its currents are more powerful than Nile bullrushes,
More seductive than the fragrance of orange blossoms.
At noon it is not heated by the sun,
Nor is it chilled by the midnight coyote's howl.
We all make mistakes.sometimes, the same ones over and over again.but at the end of the road, you'll see that it all adds up.and yes, first relationships are usually bummers.
ReplyDelete-Vijay