Dealing with the Ideal.
This is the outcome of the endless time spent at the college canteen.
All researchers all over the world and also the makers of Viagra have concluded that women are a lot more complicated than men. Was talking to Rahul on why love, sex, marriage, passion mean different things to Men and Women, and he pops the question, “What women want”?
Donno about the other wimmen, but for me my willingness to love someone depends on numerous inconsistent factors, unlike men, for whom arousal always leads to desire.! I am just as mystifying, bewitching and bewildering, like every other woman, to men. Unlike men who want to get to the destination quick ;-), but I checker the highway to love and passion with many directions, potholes, speed-breakers and check-posts!
I am not into fast food. To me, dating is a delicate process: it’s a test of compatibility, a connection of souls, and for the man to come into my life he must be gifted with:
1. Gift of a visual treat. Ok, I’ll aim for a Brad Pitt or a Hugh Grant, might also settle for a lesser mortal. My guy has to be taller than me and his breast size can’t exceed mine. Moustache-free men, to me are SEXY.
2. Gift of passion. I have an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. The hands-off chemistry must electrify my senses. Whether it’s looking deep into my eyes, (stripping me of all my pretenses) while conversing, speaking with a passion for life, work, hobbies, work, even a fellow sexy women colleague/friend or by sporting a masculine perfume or deo, he must attract, attract, ATTRACT!
3. Gift of sincerity and ease. Insincere praise is worse than no praise at all. Even self-praise is a put-off and a complete NO NO. Boastful talk about materialistic possessions and status is just too irritating. I immensely enjoy conversing with men who are comfortable in their own skin, confident and non-threatening.
4. Gift of the gab (Most important). It seems to me that small talk comes in large doses. Mental foreplay is sexy and stimulating, and men who can banter on a variety of topics and issues with clarity, wisdom and intellect enthrall me, assuming they speak good English and devoid of bad breath.!
5. Gift of manners. I judge a man by the way he treats his pets (if of course, he has one or many), children, parents and staff. A man who is amiable despite having gotten served the wrong dish and politely brings it to the notice of the hotel staff gets three cheers!!!
6. Gift of humour. I admire people who have the ability to laugh at themselves, take life head-on with wit and sparkle.
7. Gift of spontaneity. The element of surprise is exhilarating. A walk in the rain, roses, an impromptu decision of a long drive or a short vacation over a long weekend…Sigh!
8. Gifted with no addictions. Kissing a smoker is like kissing an ash-tray. I find smoking and drugs physically offensive.
9. Gift of romance. To be ordinary is not a choice. Blame it on my teenage Mills and Boon fetish but romantic, chivalrous men score major brownie points. A man, who is able through simple gestures to make me feel I’m not just one person in this world but am the world to him, magnetizes me.
10. Gift of sensitivity. All people, things who are integral part of my life should be accepted. Not necessarily appreciated. Acceptance should be unconditional.
In short, crossing the BIG line adds up to trust, respect, chemistry, comfort, longevity and romance. Is it a very tall order? But then women like me are also very hard to impress.
All researchers all over the world and also the makers of Viagra have concluded that women are a lot more complicated than men. Was talking to Rahul on why love, sex, marriage, passion mean different things to Men and Women, and he pops the question, “What women want”?
Donno about the other wimmen, but for me my willingness to love someone depends on numerous inconsistent factors, unlike men, for whom arousal always leads to desire.! I am just as mystifying, bewitching and bewildering, like every other woman, to men. Unlike men who want to get to the destination quick ;-), but I checker the highway to love and passion with many directions, potholes, speed-breakers and check-posts!
I am not into fast food. To me, dating is a delicate process: it’s a test of compatibility, a connection of souls, and for the man to come into my life he must be gifted with:
1. Gift of a visual treat. Ok, I’ll aim for a Brad Pitt or a Hugh Grant, might also settle for a lesser mortal. My guy has to be taller than me and his breast size can’t exceed mine. Moustache-free men, to me are SEXY.
2. Gift of passion. I have an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. The hands-off chemistry must electrify my senses. Whether it’s looking deep into my eyes, (stripping me of all my pretenses) while conversing, speaking with a passion for life, work, hobbies, work, even a fellow sexy women colleague/friend or by sporting a masculine perfume or deo, he must attract, attract, ATTRACT!
3. Gift of sincerity and ease. Insincere praise is worse than no praise at all. Even self-praise is a put-off and a complete NO NO. Boastful talk about materialistic possessions and status is just too irritating. I immensely enjoy conversing with men who are comfortable in their own skin, confident and non-threatening.
4. Gift of the gab (Most important). It seems to me that small talk comes in large doses. Mental foreplay is sexy and stimulating, and men who can banter on a variety of topics and issues with clarity, wisdom and intellect enthrall me, assuming they speak good English and devoid of bad breath.!
5. Gift of manners. I judge a man by the way he treats his pets (if of course, he has one or many), children, parents and staff. A man who is amiable despite having gotten served the wrong dish and politely brings it to the notice of the hotel staff gets three cheers!!!
6. Gift of humour. I admire people who have the ability to laugh at themselves, take life head-on with wit and sparkle.
7. Gift of spontaneity. The element of surprise is exhilarating. A walk in the rain, roses, an impromptu decision of a long drive or a short vacation over a long weekend…Sigh!
8. Gifted with no addictions. Kissing a smoker is like kissing an ash-tray. I find smoking and drugs physically offensive.
9. Gift of romance. To be ordinary is not a choice. Blame it on my teenage Mills and Boon fetish but romantic, chivalrous men score major brownie points. A man, who is able through simple gestures to make me feel I’m not just one person in this world but am the world to him, magnetizes me.
10. Gift of sensitivity. All people, things who are integral part of my life should be accepted. Not necessarily appreciated. Acceptance should be unconditional.
In short, crossing the BIG line adds up to trust, respect, chemistry, comfort, longevity and romance. Is it a very tall order? But then women like me are also very hard to impress.
Niks,
ReplyDeleteI've sent u a pic of how women look (or rather how women become) waiting for their ideal MAN!
:D Can't still contorl my laughter. That's how u'd become too!! he!he!he!
-Vijz
Niksi,
ReplyDeleteno , i hav never felt ---' i shud not have told him/ her '---- in fact i confide only in people whom i think are close to me and respect my words.
----Sheetal.
Niks,
ReplyDeleteDepends on whome u have confided into.....if it is someone whome u know that he/she is worth confiding in to then u feel relieved, but otherwise u just feel that he/she is a nice person just talking to him/her the first time then i guess i would feel opps why the hell did i confide....
--Suraj