How does one know when to give up? When is it really OK to say "I cannot go an anymore and I Quit"? Or is it that one should never give up at all?
I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday, he gave an 'nth' attempt to clear the last group of his CA exams this year. And with the result day nearing, he was all agitated and baffled. His entire future, which as of now is amorphous and ambiguous, depends solely upon his results. I tried motivating him with the all time jazz, "don't worry, things will fall in place" etc. During the course of the conversation he told me in a very demure tone that he would quit pursuing CA if he does not clear his exams this time. He was completely befuddled, he didn't know what to do, to keep appearing for CA exams and hoping to clear each time or pursue another Post Graduate or Management course, where there is cut-throat competition but the chances of him not clearing are minimal.
He said he was loosing the battle and that he could not take it anymore, he could not forsee any end to it. He was loosing his self-empowerment. I adviced him against it, like a friend who thought he wasn't thinking rationally.
After a lot of persuading he finally gave in and bought my argument.
There are a lot of people who don't succeed no matter how hard they try, is that an indication that we should stop doing the current thing and explore other options without wasting time? or is that we haven't tried hard enough?
We have so many choices before us, the process of choosing becomes exciting, easier and even exhilarating when we realize who we are and what we want. Isn't success all about challenging your limits and much more? Thoreau advised, "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined." And visionary William James offered a powerful formula for following through on any important life choice: 1. Be bold. 2. Begin now. 3. No exceptions.
If the coming year is going to be anything, it will be what we make it. As Peter Drucker wisely noted, "The best way to predict the future is to create it."
I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday, he gave an 'nth' attempt to clear the last group of his CA exams this year. And with the result day nearing, he was all agitated and baffled. His entire future, which as of now is amorphous and ambiguous, depends solely upon his results. I tried motivating him with the all time jazz, "don't worry, things will fall in place" etc. During the course of the conversation he told me in a very demure tone that he would quit pursuing CA if he does not clear his exams this time. He was completely befuddled, he didn't know what to do, to keep appearing for CA exams and hoping to clear each time or pursue another Post Graduate or Management course, where there is cut-throat competition but the chances of him not clearing are minimal.
He said he was loosing the battle and that he could not take it anymore, he could not forsee any end to it. He was loosing his self-empowerment. I adviced him against it, like a friend who thought he wasn't thinking rationally.
After a lot of persuading he finally gave in and bought my argument.
There are a lot of people who don't succeed no matter how hard they try, is that an indication that we should stop doing the current thing and explore other options without wasting time? or is that we haven't tried hard enough?
We have so many choices before us, the process of choosing becomes exciting, easier and even exhilarating when we realize who we are and what we want. Isn't success all about challenging your limits and much more? Thoreau advised, "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined." And visionary William James offered a powerful formula for following through on any important life choice: 1. Be bold. 2. Begin now. 3. No exceptions.
If the coming year is going to be anything, it will be what we make it. As Peter Drucker wisely noted, "The best way to predict the future is to create it."
You friend lacks sense of purpose. A closer look he may also be unhappy and unfulfilled.
ReplyDeleteDisappointments will cross our path in the future. Every day brings its share of challenges. Still, we can choose to enjoy each day as it comes, purposing not to dwell on the things we can't change. As our attitude towards life changes, we tap into a deep joy. Hope re-ignites in our hearts, and we begin to dream again. This joy, hope and vision carries us through difficult times taking us forward - never looking back and never giving.
Vijay: GLAD GLAD to know that we share the same views. BTW, how are u doin? busy, busy as usual?
ReplyDeleteIts easier to say certain things than doing them actually... Some times one doesnt really have a choice... ask a farmer who has worked in the fields all his life and has not seen rains for the last three years ... should he quit?... Some times one needs to be tough .. really tough for tough times never last.... who meved my cheese was a good reading though.... balance may be needed but again sometimes you just dont have a choice
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